You love him so much that it sometimes hurts. You are very grateful that you two met and for the strong love you have for each other. To you, it’s a perfect match. Your love story even makes other people jealous. When he looks into your eyes, your heart beats fast as of how he makes you feel.
Even if your relationship seems perfect now, and you’re deeply in love, there will be times when he does things that bother you a lot.
Yes, like when you spell out M- A- D.
He might do things that make you regret meeting him. He could make you wonder if you where ever a good match. It’s hard to imagine now, since you’re both so happy. But you’ll likely reach that point in your relationship eventually.
what should you do if this happens? Do you get very angry and say mean things back? Or do you decide he’s not the right person for you and you won’t put up with it?
I try to live by this saying: hope for the best and prepare for the worst.
Some people think planning for bad times shows a lack of hope.But life is full of surprises. The smartest way to stay calm is to get ready for things that might happen. That way, you won’t be shocked when they do. So, how can you stay calm when someone pushes you too far?
Here are 10 smart things to do when he makes you mad.
1. Walk Away
If you get angry easily, the smartest move is to step away from what’s making you mad.
Save your mind, spirit, and feelings.Just walk away from the problem. It takes a grown-up attitude and strong control to leave when you really want to get angry.
When we get angry at people we care about, we may feel bad about what we say or do.Sometimes, the hurt we cause can last a very long time.
If you’re upset,grab your phone and headphones,and go for a walk until you calm down. An old Chinese saying reminds us that “If you are patient in one moment of anger, you will escape a hundred days of sorrow.”
Walking away isn’t weak or dumb. It’s smart to do when needed. Being angry lets others control you and hurt your feelings.
2. Don’t Talk With Anger
The Bible says, “The tongue is like a small rudder that steers a big ship.” if you can control what you say,you can control a lot. When you’re mad,you might not think clearly. It’s better to be quiet and not speak.
Saying the wrong thing at the wrong time can hurt your partner. It can also cause problems in your relationship that will grow over time.These problems can lead to a breakup that you don’t expect. Many good relationships have ended because one partner said something hurtful when they were angry.
Also, he may not get what you mean if you speak with too much anger.
Managing anger means controlling your feelings. It’s about how you handle your emotions, especially when things make you mad.
You can’t always avoid these situations. It’s also normal to feel angry sometimes. I think getting angry is okay and expected for people. Sometimes, people like family, coworkers, and friends can be so unreasonable that you might feel angry at the world all the time.
But, you can learn to manage how you act in these moments. One good way to do this is to stay quiet. Stop talking and letting out all the anger you feel inside.
3. Make Him Understand
Once you’re calm, talk to him.Explain clearly what he did that made you upset.
Couples will have misunderstandings as they grew up differently. Even twins who share a womb don’t see things the same way. So, it’s normal for disagreements to happen sometimes.
How well you handle these problems decides if your relationship lasts. Talk to him honestly when you’re both calm. Tell him exactly how you feel.
4. Listen to Him
If you listen to him, he might have a good reason for acting the way he does. Men are special and different from other people.They think and act in thier own way. Just like men aren’t made to wear makeup, they also see the world differently than women do.
Women often show their feelings more and react quickly. Men usually think things through in a logical way. So,it makes sense that disagreements happen as we are different.
So, trust him and listen to what he has to say. When you really hear him, he will admire and respect you more. This makes your relationship stronger and last longer. Men have big egos, and they feel good when their partners respect them.
5. Understand His Point Of View
It’s meaningful to know that men and women think differently. what seems like a big deal to you might not be to him. If you understand this, you’ll be more understanding when you talk to him.
He didn’t do his share of the chores. Maybe he grew up in a place where people don’t do chores. He forgot your wedding day or birthday.Maybe he had a lot on his mind then. Or, he might just not be good at remembering dates.
A common mistake women make is thinking they can change their partners.But that’s not true. No one can change another person. People only change when life events and situations force them to.
If you knew he wasn’t good at something when you started dating, why are you worried about it now?
6. Overlook It
It’s often smart to ignore some things.It shows you’re grown up when you can do this. It helps to forget about the problem and move on.
Is this a life-or-death situation? Will it cost you all your money? Will it hurt your health? Will you still be upset about it in two days? If you answer “no” to these questions, it’s best to let it go. This will free you up to use your energy and feelings in better ways.
Getting angry easily can hurt you more in the long run. King Solomon was very wise. He said, “Good sense makes a person patient, and it is to their credit to ignore an insult.”
7. Don’t Approach Him With A Fight
If you start out ready to argue and demand what you think is yours, he will feel like he needs to protect himself. If that happens, you’ve already lost.
Pay attention to what he does that bothers you. Then, avoid those situations or don’t let them affect you.A big part of life is knowing what to ignore. It’s also about knowing what to say, how to say it, and when. This way, the person listening will understand your message.
8. laugh It Over
Some guys just seem to make their partners mad. They might be clumsy, not care enough, or forget things. Maybe they’re too relaxed and don’t try hard. If your guy is like this, get ready to accept his flaws and still love him. Remember, nobody is perfect, not even you.
Good relationships happen when people help each other. They make up for what the other person needs.
Did he make you mad? It’s okay. Just laugh about it. We get upset over small things because we think too much of ourselves.The good thing is, if you are patient and don’t worry about every little thing he does, he will change.He might even become the perfect partner you’ve always wanted.
9. Give Him Excuses
To have peace in a relationship, someone must give up things they want. If a relationship works well, know that someone has given up a lot. There’s a saying that means a smart woman makes her home strong.
Try to understand why he acts the way he does. Give him space to be himself, because everyone has different backgrounds. We all grew up with different families, cultures, and money situations. so, it makes sense that we act differently in different situations.
10. Forgive
If you want a long, free, and happy life, don’t carry burdens that make life hard and tiring.
These strong negative feelings are like trash. They drain your energy and make you less productive. You can’t be your best when you hold onto anger, revenge, hurt feelings, and bitterness. They are like a sickness. They harm your health and your relationships.
Many mental and body health problems today come from people not knowing how to handle their feelings.
People who ignore mistakes and forgive quickly are smarter about their feelings. They understand that controlling their emotions helps them live a calm and joyful life.
Studies show that Emotional Intelligence is seen as more important than just being smart in school. Bosses frequently enough prefer workers with good emotional skills over those who are only book smart. This is because they usually do a better job at work.
Did he make you mad? Did he not do what you hoped? Your health matters most. Forgive him and go on to better things.
Successful relationships need a lot of giving up things for each other. They are not just about love. Love by itself is not enough to keep a relationship going for a long time. That’s why some couples who seemed in love one day get divorced the next.
It takes being grown-up to be patient. it means ignoring small things and accepting others’ mistakes. It also means loving people who don’t deserve it and forgiving those who hurt you.
If you’re the type who thinks, “I won’t put up with anyone’s nonsense,” being single might be best. Relationships mean dealing with some things you don’t like.
If you can handle family members who sometimes cause drama, and still love them no matter what, then you should treat your partner the same way. Remember, they are now part of your family too.
Long-lasting couples know how to handle their feelings. they don’t let emotions control them.